I took a long break from blogging this fall. I have an excellent reason for it. I fell into a depression. Why? Because I had a miscarriage.
I was never planning on saying anything about my miscarriage, for me, it was very personal and I wanted to keep it to myself.
But miscarriage is a funny thing. No one knows what to say to a woman who has had a miscarriage. "I'm sorry for your loss" is always acceptable. "At least you know you can get pregnant" is not. I could go on and on for hours about what was said, not said, what hurt and what didn't hurt.
People don't know what to say because as a rule, awareness about miscarriage (and related, infertility) is incredibly low, because people don't talk about it.
But we need to talk about it. We don't need to go into details, (I don't anyway) but people need to know that miscarriages hurt.
It is estimated that 10-25% of pregnancies end in miscarriage.
That's a big percentage that is generally ignored.
And if we don't talk about it, we can't get upset that others don't talk about it.
Facts from American Pregnancy